No One Loves You More Than You

Many of us believe some of the most arrogant humans on the planet are doctors and lawyers; I'd say those are the top 2 most arrogant on my list but third on my list is REALTORS.

I know this as I've been an agent for 20 years.

Before I started in real estate, I was a mortgage processor so I had previous knowledge of how arrogant-and nasty-realtors can be. There was a local female agent who used to come into our loan processing office and ignore the other processor and myself AND our closer (who was really the boss) and kiss up to the loan officers. This chick was so rude in person AND on the phone. One day, my Dad came into our office (his office was right upstairs) and he saw this snotty agent in the parking lot and he says to me, the other processor, the closer and our female loan officer: "Here comes ***** your favorite, rude agent!" The loan officer couldn't believe it and said, "She's rude to you guys?"

Uhhh..YA. Even the closer said she was rude and let me tell you, our closer was one of the most respected in the business and everything I learned about mortgages I learned from her. You don't F with the closer.

Once I started in actual real estate, I encountered more arrogance but not from veteran agents, for the most part. They gave me a level of respect as they respected and were friendly with my boss/father. Of course a few thought they could treat me like dirt because A) I was new and B) I am female. At first, I was pretty timid and didn't give back what I was given but it only took me a year or two to hold my own. Funny story: one time the boss was talking to another agent who was being, quite honestly, an ass. I heard him say, "You're lucky it's me you're talking to and not Sara; she's a LOT meaner than I am!" It's not that I'm mean, necessarily; I just got tired of being given crap and having conceited ass clowns talk down to me. We all have our limits. Usually the rudest agents I encounter are those whose primary license is in Minnesota but they are also licensed in Wisconsin and honestly, very few of them know diddly about Wisconsin real estate and it shows when they write offers. I am a stickler for sh*t being right on offers as licenses and livelihoods are on the line. I will usually email them if they've left out small details such as, oh I don't know, the CORRECT ADDRESS and ask if they want to quick correct it before we present. Sometimes, the responses I get back are just downright nasty. Hey, I'm just trying to help you out, you dink, but we'll just counter the 5 billion mistakes you made so you look like an even bigger asshat to your buyers!

There's an agent in our office who has maybe been in the business 4 years and I admit he's doing very well. Here's the thing: he LOVES to tell you how wonderful he is. And on a daily basis. It's like he can't help himself. You say "how are you" and he goes into a speech about this listing appointment, these showing appointments blah blah effing blah. I believe he loves to hear his own nasally, whiny ass voice so that's why he goes on and on when NO ONE CARES! I've even had agents from other companies call me and say, "He really loves himself and thinks he's so wonderful!" and they're not saying it to be complimentary.  One time, he was up against a very veteran agent for a listing and he got it. What did he do? HE CALLED THE VETERAN TO RUB IT IN HER FACE! Oh no you didn't! She will cut a b*tch in the blink of an eye! Once, he says to my boss "I'm just so busy; I had a bunch of showings yesterday!" The boss' response: "So you mean you're doing your job?" MIC DROP!

There's another newer agent in the office-probably just coming up on 2 years-and she's had significant help from another agent in our office aka getting clients from them. This newer agent has gotten quite full of herself. One day, she's writing a sale on the board (which is right outside my office) and she says, all snotty, "I have a sale on the board." I replied, "I believe if you look, I have one as well" and she says, "But we're talking about me."

Ummm....no.

I pointed a finger at her and said, "Don't. You're starting to be as arrogant as ****** and that's very unbecoming." She got the hint...for a little while.

The thing is, arrogance is not an appealing trait. Yes, we all have our arrogant moments; we all do great things we should be proud of but walking around telling everyone how great you are is pathetic. Be proud of your accomplishments but don't be an ass about them.

Take a look at me now

And take a taste of the money

I'm not in it for the bread

I'm in it for the gravy honey

Step on the thin ice lightly

And check out the show twice nightly

Oh cause I'm, I'm on the stage tonight

And if the price is right

I'll, I will amaze before the light

I crave the light mmm blinding white

I need the light tonight

Take a look at me now

And take a look at my billing

I'm not in it as an extra

I'm in it for the killing

Inflate my ego gently

Tell them heaven sent me

Oh 'cause I'm, I'm so expressive

And I'm so obsessed

Ego

by Elton John